Hi Elaine and welcome back,
It’s often said the best thing about being a pilot is the fact you can live ANYWHERE but it’s also said that’s the worst thing as well. The vast majority of pilots commute to work. For some it’s easy, for others it can be a quite a challenge. Let’s answer your questions specifically.
First the airlines give absolutely ZERO consideration based on where you live. All the airlines have their established bases and domiciles and it’s entirely up to the pilot to make that work. The airline will initially assign you to a base where the airline needs you. Now, as with virtually everything in the airlines it all comes down to seniority. You bid for the base you want, whether you get it or not is based on your seniority in the company AND the seniority of that base. When I was first hired at ExpressJet they had 3 bases (EWR, IAH and CLE). EWR was the most junior base since the majority of the pilots didn’t want to live in NJ but since I lived in NY that’s exactly where I wanted to be so it was all good. If however EWR was a very senior base (meaning that’s where everybody wanted to be) I would’ve had to wait until my seniority allowed me to bid into it. This could be months, could be years.
Another thing to consider is are there any airlines based (or have domiciles) where you want to live. I’m not aware of any airlines (Regional or Major) with bases in TPA? If that’s the case it doesn’t really matter where your husband is based he’s going to be commuting. Now the FLL/MIA area does have pilot bases (JetBlue and American) but those are both VERY senior so it could be tough getting based there. The good news is as I said most pilot’s commute and make it work. My advice is live where you want to live and raise you family. Hubby can always just jump on a plane, that’s what we do.